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are you at the top of the mountain, or in the depths of the valley?

I have never written a blog before. I wouldn’t even consider myself a writer.  But I believe we have a story worth sharing. A story that is meant to encourage someone, and maybe that someone is you.  We know what it’s like to be buried in paperwork trying to complete a homestudy (while trying to keep our sanity intact!).  We know the sadness and embarrassment that comes with  having to say no to a prospective adoption opportunity.   And we know how it feels to meet a birth mom for the first time only to have it fall apart and not work out in the very end.   Despite all of the highs and lows, and all the joys and disappointments in-between, we have seen God’s faithfulness through it all.   We’ve experienced  the joy of bringing our son home from the hospital.   We have felt the love and embrace of our family and friends as they welcomed our child into their family. And we can say without a doubt, it’s all been worth it.  I just want to encourage you, whether you’re the top of the mountain right now or in the depths of the valley, do not lose hope, do not lose faith.   I hope you enjoy following our story, and that it brings you a little encouragement along the way as you continue on your adoption journey.

-Kristen

“Rejoice in your hope, be patient in your tribulation, be constant in prayer.”  Romans 12:12

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